Weekend in Review

So, let's start with Friday, shall we?
I got to work, and within 10minutes, Champagne's teacher was calling me!
"Hi, Kima-Shai?"
"Hi Ms. Alex! You're just calling to say hello, aren't you?"
"Um, no. (Champagne) has a fever of 101."
"Okay, I'm on my way."

People, I hadn't even gotten my first call yet. I hadn't even eaten my breakfast that I bought from McD's. Bacon, egg and cheese McGriddle meal with Cappucino. Yes, cappucino. #9 is my meal number, and yes I do eat a lot of them. If you saw the junk in my trunk, you'd believe me!

So I let my lead know, and sent an email to my manager at home to let him know I had to leave. Then, I picked up Champagne and headed to the ER. We signed in at 1050a, and finally checked out about 315P. At least they called us back so she could lay in a bed and take a nap. Meanwhile, I was entertained by emailing back and forth with the Commander. He was in a punchy mood this day, let me tell you! Oh, you want me to tell you? Well ok, I'll only say this much about it:
I was invited to be lunch!

No, that wasn't a typo.

Anywho, Can't Get Right/The One even called to check on his little girlfriend, which is what he always calls Champagne. He told me he'd call back but...yeah right, like I don't know better! So, after the ER people took XRays and swabbed her nasal lining to rule out pneumonia, flu, and RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus), they decided on Bronchitis and (double) shot her up with antibiotics. They also sent a prescription home for me to have filled. Maybe. I bought cough syrup, isn't that good too? I mean they don't really know what's wrong, they're just guestimating bronchitis. My house sounds like a seal symphony as it is, so I'll take some good Equate Tussin CF - with the same dosage of medicine as in Mucinex - any day!

Well, after we left the ER, we headed up to the sixth floor where Ann and her husband were. Their daughter was zipping back and forth between the hospital room and the waiting room across the hall, still purposely oblivious as I call it. She was actually in the room when he died, but she was just as happy as if nothing was wrong. She was excited that her aunt was taking her skating that evening. She also had a birthday party the next day, which my oldest sister took my oldest kids to. Her time will come, and I pray for her and her mom when it does.

So Saturday, I stayed in sleep clothes all day! I did manage to: (trumpets sounding) RELAX MY HAIR!!! Yes, ladies and gentleman, it's actually straight again! And I even deep-conditioned it!

Sunday, I lounged around most of the day, then went to my Grandmother's house to wish my mom a happy birthday. She turned 57 on February 26th! WOOHOO!! I am definitely blessed there. My Grandmother turned 86 on the 21st! I bought my mom the first 2 seasons of Miami Vice on DVD. She has been asking about this for months, wanting to know if I would check the prices on ebay for her. Yes...I am the reigning ebay queen in my family! I just played along, cause I already knew what I would do. I had those sets delivered almost 3 full weeks before her birthday. She LOVED it!!! We stayed down there for several hours, then came on home. That was Sunday.

Back to work a full day on Monday, with no daycare calls. WOW! (the audience appauds)
Work was fun today. It was busy, but I was emailing with my best friend for the better part of the day. I was able to email just shortly with the Major also. Mainly our thing is yahoo chat and talking on the phone most evenings.

Yes the Commander and I were emailing too. Mostly R rated, yes again. We almost made a plan, but Divine intervention prevented such a thing from occurring!
Either we're gonna have to quit cold turkey(hold your breath)...or just do it and get it out of the way!
No, really.
I want him to be my friend either way, whether we do or we don't. So we might just need to get rid of that (ever-increasing) sexual tension, so we can move on to better things. Like hanging out on occasion. We may even have business dealings in the future.

Yes. I really would do it...and well!

So, here we are at Monday night, nothing exciting going on. The funeral is Wednesday evening.
Maybe I'll have something good to post tomorrow.

Back to the Grind

So Champagne was well enough that she went back to school today, though she still has the cough of a 20 year chain smoker. That meant I went back to work today. I did put in 16 hours of sick time, don't know if I'll get paid for all of it. I did get my verbal warning today as well. Hey, what can you do?

I got to my sister's house to pick her up, and I could tell something was wrong. I was on the phone with my girl from high school, so I told her I'd call her back. I was right about something being wrong. We have a friend who is more like a sister to us, named Ann. Ann has 2 children, a girl and a boy. Ann is also married to a pretty cool guy...who is at this moment dying. A few months ago, they found cancer in his spine. When the doctors went in to get it, they noticed it had metasticized. Yes indeed, in my opinion, the WORST word in cancer is metastacized. That basically means it has spread.

He has had enough time to get all of their affairs in order, and as far as I know make peace with the situation at hand. My sisters usually speak in amazement at how much he has planned and taken care of during this time. He's even researched and planned a deck to be built on the house! But, my God, Ann is only like 37! He is not that much older! The children are 8 and 3. How absolutely heart-breaking is that! I feel so much for Ann right now. I just can't even imagine losing a husband. I humbly request your prayers of strength for Ann and her family at this time.

I called on the one friend I have that I knew would truly help me in prayer. That's right. The Commander brought all the right words out to help me talk to God on behalf of the family. After he finished typing - this was done through IM - I prayed a most heartfelt prayer using his words. I am exceptionally emotional, so of course there were tears. No of course I didn't let him know! I just thanked him sincerely and told him he was my angel tonight.

Well God is In charge and you should just pray for His Comfort and as the Lord that he's will be done. Ask God for comfort and strenghth for the family. Ask God to Provide understanding in the midst of this storm. Thank God for all that he has brought this man through. Thank God for Just being a graceful God. Ask that His Word be manifest unto the family. Pray to the lord that He just be God and God alone and do whats best to unite the family and ask that he be the Doctor and the Healer. He can do all things but fail.

Nothing else to say but: AMEN.

A sigh of Relief!

I got my first comment today! Thanks Anonymous!! And no, The Commander is NOT a loser, he's actually a pretty great guy, from what I've seen so far!

Anyway, my little van passed the inspection today! Yay!!! You know the emissions inspections that most of us with "slightly older" model cars dread? Yeah, that one. Well, she passed! Once I get that transmission fixed, she'll be on fire!!! I can't wait either, because I'm ready to get us on the road again! Some weekend getaways will do me and the brood just fine.

Champagne (the female half of the WonderTwins) was sick today. No not really sick (fever was 101), just enough to keep me from working today. Just my luck of course. Did I tell you single parenting rules?? Oh yeah, and the icing on the cake? Daycare has a 24-hour rule about fevers, so I'll probably miss tomorrow too!

I know all you two-parenters are soooo envious, aren't you?

The Commander and I did have a cool conversation today. An additional ray of sun on this interesting day. Well, I can't say it was a bad day (even though this will count against my attendance record), and the emissions thing was so great!! He gave me some really great ideas to get a few extra bucks in the pocket. I will definitely take him up on that. I will keep you posted on how that goes.

Speaking of......(drum roll)......I got my website back!!!!! Yes, www.starrdom.com is back in business! Okay well right now it's just the filler page, but it's a start! I'm debating on which number to use, home or cell, for business cards and such. One of The Commander's many skills is website design. So I told him today that I am using a template builder to do my site, and then later when I am more profitable, perhaps I can afford him! What I dig about him is that he totally gets the concept of multiple streams of income, and he actually works it! Yeah I get it, but thusfar haven't worked it. He's definitely an inspiration in that aspect.

Okay, Champagne is sleeping right now, so I'm gonna go take this opportunity to get a few things done around here.

Sunday's News

I didn't go to church today. Honestly I really didn't want to put my little van through the paces. She seems to be running hard lately. I know I'm on borrowed time as it is with my transmission. In case I haven't mentioned it before, my car's transmission won't shift past second gear. So I can't really go faster than 45mph. Hey, if it ain't one thing, it's another! That's life.

Anyway, I have so much to do this evening. My sister is throwing a dinner party for my brother-in-law's birthday today. Tomorrow, my friend is watching the kids at my house since they have no school. This is the friend who brings her children every morning for me to take to school. So, I have to make sure to clean my house. Otherwise, she is a clean freak, so she'd be cleaning the entire day! That makes me feel like crap. I don't need to voluntarily feel like crap. She's not being condescending or anything, she actually is trying to help. But, the difference is I can sleep with dishes in the sink or clothes out of place!

So on top of all else I need to be doing this evening -like maybe relaxing my hair, I've got to clean. I've got to do the dishes, clean the bathrooms, put all clothes away, vaccuum all floors, and make sure no papers are out place. No, my house isn't filthy, this is just preventative.

So anyway, I probably have never talked about her children. She has a boy and a girl. Girl is 12 and boy is 5. The girl is going through the usual preteen stuff, except for the fact that she is failing terribly in school. Her mother is basically to the point of giving up, and has told her and all who will listen so. Unfortunately, I have discovered, as sweet as she (the mother) is, her coping skills are failing her. She is too medicated, yet still incredibly stressed out. She is in denial about the youngest. He is in kindergarten, and has been problematic since day one. Now, his teacher is to blame for part of it, but not as much as she wants to believe. My opinion? He is ADHD, no doubt. I'm not a medication person, since I know how strong Ritalin is. I know she would never go for that. But considering we are three-quarters into the school year, and he is still in trouble almost daily, something needs to happen. This is not just my opinion either. The school has already made mention more than once, and countless others have thought it as well.

I found out through another friend that ADHD can sometimes be managed with diet, especially restricting carbs. I did some online research on it, and thought I would share the info with her. No, I wasn't that blatant! Honestly I think my daughter is ADHD (ie the title Space Cadet), and so am I. That was my angle to introduce the subject, to see if she would show any interest. You could have heard a needle drop on carpet! So, I'm done discussing it with her. From now on, I will listen only. I will listen to her complain about how the teacher is picking on him or just being unfair. I will listen to her yell at him almost constantly, but then get mad at her mother if she yells at him. I will continue to be exhausted every morning by then time I drop them off at school. Yes, even to the woman with four children, this little boy is exhausting. But I will not bring it up again.

I will work on me and mine. The Space Cadet and Space Captain (that's me) will try to restrict our carbohydrate intake to see if that helps our focus. I will help those that want to be helped that I can control. I want my daughter to keep her grades as high as they are and be more social. I want to better maximize my time and get my business up and running. So, while I will still occasionally talk about my mostly imaginary "dating game", for the most part my focus will be back on taking care of me and my family, and doing all to insuring our future.

You'll see...

Did ya miss me?

It's been awhile. I know. Finances man, finances.

Things are better now. Taxes came in...taxes went out. All the bills got paid and caught up. So, I'm back on track now. That of course is the short version.

So what has happened during the blackout? I'm still out of shape and overweight. I still haven't relaxed my hair. I haven't been on a date. I had a date, but it was cancelled. Yeah, great huh?

Remember The New Guy? Yeah, that's a total loss. He finally admitted he made his choice. Who's surprised it wasn't me? Me neither.

Haven't really talked to PreacherMan much. Just not that excited about him. I get a player vibe when I talk to him. Maybe it's because he sounds so much like the WonderTwins' father. So, I'm cordial to him when I talk to him, but nothing is there. I have no real desire to meet him. At all.

The Major and I talk every day basically, either by phone or chatting on yahoo. I look forward to talking to him. I have already put a limit on this because he is far away. But we have a great time together, laughing and talking. I learn a lot from him business-wise just hearing about his day. I enjoy him, but I am very guarded. I just don't see it going anywhere. I don't know why...I just don't think it will get me to alter. No big deal, I am enjoying the ride.

The Commander? Him I like, though we have yet to meet. We were supposed to meet on the 16th for a movie date, but he cancelled on me. He's got some issues, as we all do. Not a bad thing. It just means we'll be friends and that's all. That is okay with me. Really. It is.
Really.
I haven't even met the man in person. We may not even have any chemistry. Yeah, he does seem like everything I could want. What's your point? Here's mine: So did the New Guy. I am in no rush to get into anything with anyone. Yes, if I had the choice, he would be it. But that is irrelevant because this is not our time.

He is very into getting his business marketed to the masses right now. I am also trying to get focused on business too. I am in the process of reading books. Kind of like my own self education. Right now I am reading Business Plan in a Day. After I go over it, I will go back and do exactly what it says to get my plan written. I am still debating how I want to do this travel part of my business. We'll talk about that later.

Having more family time right now...