So apparently, I'm playing it again. Kicking and screaming the whole way.
People, I don't like dating. I'm not good at dating.
So how about we not call it dating, ok? Yeah, yeah. That'll work!
Well, I think I've made some new friends. Can't say any are really love connections at this time. But perhaps because I was recently slapped into reality from The New Guy, I am bit more cautious now. My best friend would be pleased. But, unless she's reading my blog, she doesn't know...and doesn't care to know. Which is okay with me. Anyway, that's another story. We're all different, and have different ways of doing things. That's what makes us all unique, and yet the same.
First, there's Major. He's divorced with one child. Currently he is on the East Coast but comes back here once a month for his business. He owns his own company in addition the 22 years he's been in the Army. We get along well so far. We can laugh and joke very easy. There is definitely a comfortable feeling there. We chat on yahoo more than we talk on the phone, which is okay with both of us. He came in town this weekend and I got to meet him. He is my height standing face-to-face. Yes, I had on heels. I always have on heels! That doesn't bother me or him though. He's a gentleman, holding doors and things. We talked about family and world events and whatever came to mind. There was no awkwardness. We even watch the football game together. I think we'll see each other again.
Then there's PreacherMan. I have talked to him on the phone once now. We talked for about an hour. We started off laughing from the get-go, so good sign for me. He is a former US Marine (!), 12years, divorced with 3 girls (I laughed), and currently works for the state of Missouri. He is very interested in meeting me, but I want to take that one a little slower. He professes to be a minister and due to my experiences with ministers and the like (PsychoRev, the slumlord, The New Guy), I am very wary! I told him so too! We'll see what happens.
Then there is the Commander. I like him!! We have not talked at this point. We don't even have each other's phone number, on purpose. We will get online and chat for hours, and it's hard to sign off. He is very involved at his church, which is a plus for me. He is also former military, 12 or 14years I think, Army. He's 6'3", and from what I see has a very commanding presence (thus the name). He has two boys, 18 and 17. He is divorced. Y'all, one of the first times we chatted together, this man prayed! PRAYED!! It could be a ploy I know, but the prayer was wonderful...and very refreshing. He flirts a little, I flirt a little, but we keep the tone very respectable. He let me know tonight that he is not looking for a relationship right now, just a friend. Then later he confessed to me that if he was looking, I would be exactly what he was looking for, and to keep the friends option open for further developments. I thought that was cute.
That really opened my eyes to the fact that - like my best friend said- I should stop putting so much effort into dating (well, she specified online dating, which she personally doesn't like), and focus on the important stuff in my life. My kids and getting my business off the ground, for example. I am very cool with the idea of me and the guys being friends and getting to know each other first. Most especially the Commander. I definitely have some things within my own life and world that I need to get smoothed out. Then the whole dating thing will fall into place later, exactly when God says so.
I told you, I don't like dating. Dating blows.
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January 13, 2007
It's Saturday!!!
So the general consensus is this has been a long week. But yay, we all survived, and are better for it!
So. as for the highlights from "earlier". Yes, I did talk to The New Guy. We talked for about 15minutes. He finally got up enough nerve to call he said. He is really no further along in solving his dilemma. He said honestly he has used his coursework as a reason not to have to deal with it right now. He said he is not able to get much of coursework done -ironically- because he is so confused on this personal matter. What he did say that I totally agreed with was that he believes this is yet another trick of the devil to keep him from being focused and doing excellent on his coursework. As a reminder, he is studying theology to one day become an ordained minister. Hey, whether you belive it or not, that's exactly what the devil does.
He was also worried about me resenting him later if I moved over to where he is. We ended the conversation because he was tired, and I sent him an emailed response the next day. Here's the excerpt:
"Why would I resent you for making me happy? It doesn’t matter where I am. If I am happy with you and living my life according to God’s purpose, there is no room in my heart for resentment. When I said what I said about where we would live, you maybe thought I was saying it to win brownie points or something. I was not. I meant every word. That’s just who I am. And you know what? Quite frankly, even if by some chance I am not happy, there is still no room for resentment in my heart. In case you forgot my dear, I am a grown woman. You cannot ‘make me’ do anything I don’t already want to do. My choice to come to you would be just that, my decision. "
Did I make myself clear enough? So, he'll call me when he's ready...or not. I'm okay either way.
Yes, you're right. I have met someone else! No, I can't tell you right now. I've got more updates to do.
Then there is Emmarita (not real name). This is the friend I talked to through myspace, afterlosing contact with her in 1999!! We were best girls in high school, and then we had a major falling out. Typical high school stuff, but a guy was involved so you know the drill. We didn't speak for months, but we slowly came around. They got married and he joined the military, so we saw each other before they left. Of course they broke up, and he is definitely a deadbeat dad to those children. But like me, Emm is a strong black woman, she can hold her own just fine. I also got an email from our other friend, who I haven't seen or talked to since a little after high school, Dani (also not her real name). I haven't talked to her yet, but I will catch up this weekend for sure.
Life is short and this really makes me want to keep up with some of my older friends better, and make an effort to reach out to some new ones that I've been neglecting. I will keep you posted on that, of course.
Ending this on a high note, take a look at this link. If you don't know about the power of prayer and how good God is, this should help:
http://www.kmov.com/topstories/stories/kmov_localnews_070112_boysfound.33671421.html
So. as for the highlights from "earlier". Yes, I did talk to The New Guy. We talked for about 15minutes. He finally got up enough nerve to call he said. He is really no further along in solving his dilemma. He said honestly he has used his coursework as a reason not to have to deal with it right now. He said he is not able to get much of coursework done -ironically- because he is so confused on this personal matter. What he did say that I totally agreed with was that he believes this is yet another trick of the devil to keep him from being focused and doing excellent on his coursework. As a reminder, he is studying theology to one day become an ordained minister. Hey, whether you belive it or not, that's exactly what the devil does.
He was also worried about me resenting him later if I moved over to where he is. We ended the conversation because he was tired, and I sent him an emailed response the next day. Here's the excerpt:
"Why would I resent you for making me happy? It doesn’t matter where I am. If I am happy with you and living my life according to God’s purpose, there is no room in my heart for resentment. When I said what I said about where we would live, you maybe thought I was saying it to win brownie points or something. I was not. I meant every word. That’s just who I am. And you know what? Quite frankly, even if by some chance I am not happy, there is still no room for resentment in my heart. In case you forgot my dear, I am a grown woman. You cannot ‘make me’ do anything I don’t already want to do. My choice to come to you would be just that, my decision. "
Did I make myself clear enough? So, he'll call me when he's ready...or not. I'm okay either way.
Yes, you're right. I have met someone else! No, I can't tell you right now. I've got more updates to do.
Then there is Emmarita (not real name). This is the friend I talked to through myspace, afterlosing contact with her in 1999!! We were best girls in high school, and then we had a major falling out. Typical high school stuff, but a guy was involved so you know the drill. We didn't speak for months, but we slowly came around. They got married and he joined the military, so we saw each other before they left. Of course they broke up, and he is definitely a deadbeat dad to those children. But like me, Emm is a strong black woman, she can hold her own just fine. I also got an email from our other friend, who I haven't seen or talked to since a little after high school, Dani (also not her real name). I haven't talked to her yet, but I will catch up this weekend for sure.
Life is short and this really makes me want to keep up with some of my older friends better, and make an effort to reach out to some new ones that I've been neglecting. I will keep you posted on that, of course.
Ending this on a high note, take a look at this link. If you don't know about the power of prayer and how good God is, this should help:
http://www.kmov.com/topstories/stories/kmov_localnews_070112_boysfound.33671421.html
January 10, 2007
It's Only Wednesday???
Is is time for vacation yet???
Be back later with some exciting updates from yesterday! I'll give you the highlights like they do on the news (if you could call death, robbery, and destruction "highlights"):
Be back later with some exciting updates from yesterday! I'll give you the highlights like they do on the news (if you could call death, robbery, and destruction "highlights"):
- I talked to The New Guy
- I talked to a very good friend for the first time in almost 8 years
- I have the number for another good friend who I haven't talked to since sometime after high school
- I'm getting myself together!
"Film at 11"
January 8, 2007
"Call It"
Well, this is the point that I can sadly say we better call the time of death of the relationship between me and The New Guy. I got a brief email from him on Friday, only after I had emailed him twice. I didn't hear a peep all weekend. Even though there's a significant part of me that still wants to hold on because we clicked so perfectly, common sense is telling me the writing is on the wall. That's really too bad.
I have begun trying to make myself available to others. I corresponded with one guy first by email then chat this weekend. He was in the St. Louis area when he made his profile, but he has since relocated to Virginia. Ironically, he has a business here so he visits every month. I'm supposed to be meeting him for coffee sometime next Saturday afternoon. He sent me pictures of himself, three of them. Not disappointing at all, he's a decent looking guy. Looks like he's got a cool sense of humor. The chat got pretty intense last night, but I did let him that was just "in my head", and nothing like that would happen in real life. We exchanged phone numbers and I'm supposed to call him sometime this week to confirm the when and where. Here are the basics: 5' 10", average build, bald (by choice), nice smile, 39 years old, almost 22 year Army vet with about 18months to go he says, divorced with 1 child. I'll keep you posted.
I had even set up an 'adults-only' after hours meeting with Can't Get Right/The One for this weekend. Apparently divine intervention kept us from connecting though. Yeah, we'll keep trying.
After waiting ALL DAY on Saturday, I have a working and clean refrigerator again. The original delivery time was between 10-11 am, then it went to by 1p, then by 3p. Okay by now the majority of my day is shot. So about 530p I gave up. I told my mom about it, and she was getting herself very upset. I refused to be upset. I just simply said I would call them first thing this morning to have her refund ready when she got there after work. Then about 10 minutes later, the doorbell rang. So there you have it! One thing down, a few more to go.
I still haven't gotten my sink fixed yet. I will take the part with me today, and go to a hardware store to have it replaced, then I'll try to do it myself.
The Slumlord and his wife responded to my letter with a doozie of their own. One that, in their haste, has caused them to start digging themselves a hole. I saw a relative of the wife's in the backyard on Saturday getting rid of the tree debris that's been there since the Ice Storm. Funny how you never mentioned it before, but when I brought it up in writing, all of a sudden it got done. Their excuse in the letter was that the insurance company was moving slow. Then explain to me why a relative of the wife was the one doing the removal? How do I know it was a relative? Because their personalized license plates matched the wife's maiden name! Then there are things in the letter that they flat out LIED about. Other things they just refused to address.
What's sad is that this man is supposed to be a minister or pastor of a church. All they are concerned about is getting their monthly rent every month, and don't want to do anything else. That, ladies and gentleman, is a Slumlord. I don't care how nice the neighborhood is, it is what it is.
On a lighter note, the WonderTwins father saw then on Saturday, for the first time since 2005. Yes I said 2005. The Bruzer of course didn't know him, but he was fine just the same. Ms. Thing was her usual 'hard' self when it comes to meeting strangers. She'll look at you and kind of smirk, but she will keep her distance. I even told her who he was, and she basically like "whatever". He gave them money about $60 and said he would be back the following weekend when he got paid again. For whatever reason, he went home and brought his girlfriend with him and, according to him, she had an attitude in the car. Because of that he only stayed about 5 minutes. I did take a picture of the three of them though. We'll see how this plays out.
Okay so cross your fingers that The New Guy totally realizes the error of ways and calls me to apologize and earn his way back into my heart!
What?
It could happen.
I have begun trying to make myself available to others. I corresponded with one guy first by email then chat this weekend. He was in the St. Louis area when he made his profile, but he has since relocated to Virginia. Ironically, he has a business here so he visits every month. I'm supposed to be meeting him for coffee sometime next Saturday afternoon. He sent me pictures of himself, three of them. Not disappointing at all, he's a decent looking guy. Looks like he's got a cool sense of humor. The chat got pretty intense last night, but I did let him that was just "in my head", and nothing like that would happen in real life. We exchanged phone numbers and I'm supposed to call him sometime this week to confirm the when and where. Here are the basics: 5' 10", average build, bald (by choice), nice smile, 39 years old, almost 22 year Army vet with about 18months to go he says, divorced with 1 child. I'll keep you posted.
I had even set up an 'adults-only' after hours meeting with Can't Get Right/The One for this weekend. Apparently divine intervention kept us from connecting though. Yeah, we'll keep trying.
After waiting ALL DAY on Saturday, I have a working and clean refrigerator again. The original delivery time was between 10-11 am, then it went to by 1p, then by 3p. Okay by now the majority of my day is shot. So about 530p I gave up. I told my mom about it, and she was getting herself very upset. I refused to be upset. I just simply said I would call them first thing this morning to have her refund ready when she got there after work. Then about 10 minutes later, the doorbell rang. So there you have it! One thing down, a few more to go.
I still haven't gotten my sink fixed yet. I will take the part with me today, and go to a hardware store to have it replaced, then I'll try to do it myself.
The Slumlord and his wife responded to my letter with a doozie of their own. One that, in their haste, has caused them to start digging themselves a hole. I saw a relative of the wife's in the backyard on Saturday getting rid of the tree debris that's been there since the Ice Storm. Funny how you never mentioned it before, but when I brought it up in writing, all of a sudden it got done. Their excuse in the letter was that the insurance company was moving slow. Then explain to me why a relative of the wife was the one doing the removal? How do I know it was a relative? Because their personalized license plates matched the wife's maiden name! Then there are things in the letter that they flat out LIED about. Other things they just refused to address.
What's sad is that this man is supposed to be a minister or pastor of a church. All they are concerned about is getting their monthly rent every month, and don't want to do anything else. That, ladies and gentleman, is a Slumlord. I don't care how nice the neighborhood is, it is what it is.
On a lighter note, the WonderTwins father saw then on Saturday, for the first time since 2005. Yes I said 2005. The Bruzer of course didn't know him, but he was fine just the same. Ms. Thing was her usual 'hard' self when it comes to meeting strangers. She'll look at you and kind of smirk, but she will keep her distance. I even told her who he was, and she basically like "whatever". He gave them money about $60 and said he would be back the following weekend when he got paid again. For whatever reason, he went home and brought his girlfriend with him and, according to him, she had an attitude in the car. Because of that he only stayed about 5 minutes. I did take a picture of the three of them though. We'll see how this plays out.
Okay so cross your fingers that The New Guy totally realizes the error of ways and calls me to apologize and earn his way back into my heart!
What?
It could happen.
January 4, 2007
Rainy Days
Today was a dreary rainy day. I don't do well on dreary rainy days.
Seriously.
My mood goes all screwy. I'm still good on the phones for my clients, but I'm "off" attitude-wise.
Then it doesn't help that The New Guy has thrown me a serious curve ball. I really don't know what to think. Here's the skinny:
He told me he has feelings for someone else, as well as me. He said this came about very unexpectedly. Someone he has known for a very long time, they go to the same church together, there has been a mutual attraction for some time now. WTH?!?!?!?! I have not talked to him in a few days, as he has requested time to think things through. I had made my profile unsearchable on both dating sites I was on, and I told him so. I even answered 'the question' right before this happened, agreeing to be his girlfriend. But apparently this other person surfaced before I did, and he was already getting confused.
He has apologized profusely. He says that nothing has happened between them, that their attraction has been discussed. But, it was enough to make him reconsider us being together. He is not dumping me by any means. But he has also admitted that he wouldn't blame me if I didn't wait for him to figure things out. We have emailed and chatted a few times, and I am trying to give him the space he needs to figure this out. I am not being a doormat, I promise. I understand how it feels to be torn -even if only superficially- between two.
Yes I said it. Superficially. I am speaking positiveness into this situation. He said a few things to me today by email that led me to believe he really does want to be with me. Sounds self-delusional doesn't it? But I read somethings in his emails today that flat out let me know this situation is temporary.
No. I'm not putting myself on hold for someone I've known a few weeks.
Yes. I did make my profiles searchable again on the dating sites I belong to.
I will not try to contact him by phone again, until he calls me. I will let him make the moves. I send him an email in the morning to say Good Morning. He can make any additional moves from there.
Now, let me be honest. The connection with him was/is awesome. I have dissected the relationship thus far, and I just hadn't seen any red flags. With the PsychoRev, tons of red flags. At least a gajillion. We have talked about everything but credit, finances and taxes. We know a lot about each other's previous marriages and relationships. I feel like, we just know a lot about each other. I don't feel any different now, and I don't believe he does either. So the word of the week is Patience.
On a lighter note, I have been fasting this week. Well since Tuesday at least. I am going to plan for at least two weeks. I am pretty pleases that I have been making it so far, considering my hypoglycemia. I have been drinking juice, water, and eating apples and oranges throughout the day. Then I eat dinner, and that's that. I am kind of on this corporate fast with my coworker's church. Yes the church I went to before. I am actually proud of the sacrifice I am making. As a symbol of the sacrifices my Savior made for me.
Amen!
Seriously.
My mood goes all screwy. I'm still good on the phones for my clients, but I'm "off" attitude-wise.
Then it doesn't help that The New Guy has thrown me a serious curve ball. I really don't know what to think. Here's the skinny:
He told me he has feelings for someone else, as well as me. He said this came about very unexpectedly. Someone he has known for a very long time, they go to the same church together, there has been a mutual attraction for some time now. WTH?!?!?!?! I have not talked to him in a few days, as he has requested time to think things through. I had made my profile unsearchable on both dating sites I was on, and I told him so. I even answered 'the question' right before this happened, agreeing to be his girlfriend. But apparently this other person surfaced before I did, and he was already getting confused.
He has apologized profusely. He says that nothing has happened between them, that their attraction has been discussed. But, it was enough to make him reconsider us being together. He is not dumping me by any means. But he has also admitted that he wouldn't blame me if I didn't wait for him to figure things out. We have emailed and chatted a few times, and I am trying to give him the space he needs to figure this out. I am not being a doormat, I promise. I understand how it feels to be torn -even if only superficially- between two.
Yes I said it. Superficially. I am speaking positiveness into this situation. He said a few things to me today by email that led me to believe he really does want to be with me. Sounds self-delusional doesn't it? But I read somethings in his emails today that flat out let me know this situation is temporary.
No. I'm not putting myself on hold for someone I've known a few weeks.
Yes. I did make my profiles searchable again on the dating sites I belong to.
I will not try to contact him by phone again, until he calls me. I will let him make the moves. I send him an email in the morning to say Good Morning. He can make any additional moves from there.
Now, let me be honest. The connection with him was/is awesome. I have dissected the relationship thus far, and I just hadn't seen any red flags. With the PsychoRev, tons of red flags. At least a gajillion. We have talked about everything but credit, finances and taxes. We know a lot about each other's previous marriages and relationships. I feel like, we just know a lot about each other. I don't feel any different now, and I don't believe he does either. So the word of the week is Patience.
On a lighter note, I have been fasting this week. Well since Tuesday at least. I am going to plan for at least two weeks. I am pretty pleases that I have been making it so far, considering my hypoglycemia. I have been drinking juice, water, and eating apples and oranges throughout the day. Then I eat dinner, and that's that. I am kind of on this corporate fast with my coworker's church. Yes the church I went to before. I am actually proud of the sacrifice I am making. As a symbol of the sacrifices my Savior made for me.
Amen!
January 2, 2007
I Can Think Clearly Now
That's what I always say after giving myself a relaxer! It has been a long, long time. Which was a bad thing, since I was not maintaining it properly. Most people think it's a bad thing to stretch a relaxer, and it is if you don't keep your hair plenty moisturized! I didn't. But I couldn't do it one more day. I didn't want to wake up one morning soon and my hair not!! So I am relaxed again, though it is far from super straight which is fine with me.
Got a shocker today. After pouring my heart out to the New Guy in an email this weekend, I felt I was getting the cold shoulder. Much to my surprise today, I was! He tells me that my email really blew his mind. He said he had a lot on his plate and a lot on his mind right now. Then, he said something about unresolved feelings for another that he either needed to explore or dissolve. Ouch!!! And you were going to share this when exactly? Considering I was totally diggin this guy and had already told him I would be his girlfriend, this was HUGE! I don't know what to do from here. Do I give him a few days or a week, and then repost my ad in the personals? Oh yeah, I even told him I was making my yahoo ad 'unsearchable'. Am I honestly supposed to wait on him to try to spark this other relationship? Then what? If it doesn't work, he comes back to me? Um, that's not looking like a good option.
I am going to give him the time he needs, but I am also going make my ad searchable again. I will not be put on the shelf for anyone, perfect for me or not.
On another note, Can't Get Right/The One wanted to ring in the new year with me and his daughter. We were at my sister's house though, so we missed him.
I have GOT to get myself refocused!!!Now that the kinks are out of my brain, I may have a chance!
Got a shocker today. After pouring my heart out to the New Guy in an email this weekend, I felt I was getting the cold shoulder. Much to my surprise today, I was! He tells me that my email really blew his mind. He said he had a lot on his plate and a lot on his mind right now. Then, he said something about unresolved feelings for another that he either needed to explore or dissolve. Ouch!!! And you were going to share this when exactly? Considering I was totally diggin this guy and had already told him I would be his girlfriend, this was HUGE! I don't know what to do from here. Do I give him a few days or a week, and then repost my ad in the personals? Oh yeah, I even told him I was making my yahoo ad 'unsearchable'. Am I honestly supposed to wait on him to try to spark this other relationship? Then what? If it doesn't work, he comes back to me? Um, that's not looking like a good option.
I am going to give him the time he needs, but I am also going make my ad searchable again. I will not be put on the shelf for anyone, perfect for me or not.
On another note, Can't Get Right/The One wanted to ring in the new year with me and his daughter. We were at my sister's house though, so we missed him.
I have GOT to get myself refocused!!!Now that the kinks are out of my brain, I may have a chance!
January 1, 2007
New Year's Modifications
Yes, I did say "modifications" and not "resolutions". I don't believe in New Year's Resolutions. You are automatically destined to fail with those! You know I'm right. Admit it.
Instead, I am doing some modifications to my life. Things to make it better, and help me to achieve my goals better. I'll do it in list form, how about that?
Start and keep a prayer journal. Even if it's only a line or two, I will write EVERYDAY.
I will lose weight and become completely physically fit. I do plan to try a Master Cleanse followed by a fruit fast for a few weeks every quarter. I want to exercise daily on my TotalGym, pick back up on my 100 crunches daily, and also do Winsor Pilates 3x a week.
Take better care of my hair and skin. First off, Ms. Lazy here has to actually wash her face more than just in the morning! Yeah that means, starting a nighttime ritual of washing my face and brushing (and flossing!) my teeth. I will wash and deep condition my hair weekly, avoiding heat, and protecting my ends to maintain length. I want my hair to grow from "brushing-the-shoulders" length to armpit length by the summer, and bra-strap lenth by my birthday in November.
I want to continue on the road to credit recovery with my microloans, paying as agreed. Also, I plan to clear up the smaller things on my credit report and work on more ways to put positive things on my report.
Become a steady seller on ebay. I want to buy at resale shops and resell on ebay, hopefully bringing in an extra few hundred dollars a month in profit. First off, I plan to sell whatever is unsused around this house, then go from there!
Start my virtual assistant company, StarrDom Administrative Services. I am in the process of deciding who my client base will be, and will complete my business plan in January. I also plan to join ytb for travel incentives.
Re-involve myself and my children in church and other social activities. I want to find more business networking opportunities for myself. I want to reinvolve my children in Scouts as well as another physical activity. Also, I want all of us actively involved in the choir at church.
I will add more as I think of additional Modifications that need to be made.
What about you?
Instead, I am doing some modifications to my life. Things to make it better, and help me to achieve my goals better. I'll do it in list form, how about that?
Start and keep a prayer journal. Even if it's only a line or two, I will write EVERYDAY.
I will lose weight and become completely physically fit. I do plan to try a Master Cleanse followed by a fruit fast for a few weeks every quarter. I want to exercise daily on my TotalGym, pick back up on my 100 crunches daily, and also do Winsor Pilates 3x a week.
Take better care of my hair and skin. First off, Ms. Lazy here has to actually wash her face more than just in the morning! Yeah that means, starting a nighttime ritual of washing my face and brushing (and flossing!) my teeth. I will wash and deep condition my hair weekly, avoiding heat, and protecting my ends to maintain length. I want my hair to grow from "brushing-the-shoulders" length to armpit length by the summer, and bra-strap lenth by my birthday in November.
I want to continue on the road to credit recovery with my microloans, paying as agreed. Also, I plan to clear up the smaller things on my credit report and work on more ways to put positive things on my report.
Become a steady seller on ebay. I want to buy at resale shops and resell on ebay, hopefully bringing in an extra few hundred dollars a month in profit. First off, I plan to sell whatever is unsused around this house, then go from there!
Start my virtual assistant company, StarrDom Administrative Services. I am in the process of deciding who my client base will be, and will complete my business plan in January. I also plan to join ytb for travel incentives.
Re-involve myself and my children in church and other social activities. I want to find more business networking opportunities for myself. I want to reinvolve my children in Scouts as well as another physical activity. Also, I want all of us actively involved in the choir at church.
I will add more as I think of additional Modifications that need to be made.
What about you?
Merry New Year
Okay so -once again- it's been awhile. Here are the updates:
I still don't have a refrigerator. I left my landlord a voicemail on Monday then again on Friday after no callback. This was the week before Christmas. He left me a voicemail telling me how he didn't appreciate me calling his house with an attitude. He also said he didn't know the refrigerator looked the way it did, but he was trying to do ME a favor!!! Do ME a favor?!?!?!?! Supplying a refrigerator for his property is doing ME a favor! Yeah, okay.
So I began my paper trail. Honestly I wanted to pack up my stuff and run from this place, since he definitely wants his key back (at least that's the way he acts). I wrote him a very professional letter detailing all issues that are currently being dealt with in the house, that need to be handled by him most expediously. I followed proper procedures, giving timelines to request all issues be handled. He finally called back to let me know he hadn't had time to look for a refrigerator so I could do it and let him know. The saga continues...
I really wasn't in much of a Holiday mood this year. I never did put up a tree. Things were just so heavy on me, I just couldn't shake it. Not like depression, just pressure. Everything is up to me pressure. I am barely maintaining, but I'm holding on in faith. Right now I am hanging in there for tax return season. That's my light at the end of the tunnel. I just want to get everything caught up and a little ahead, so that I can maintain my budget from there.
Things are going okay with me and The New Guy. We have been getting along really well, although I think he is getting scared and therefore retreating. He did tell me he has some school work that was getting behind that he is on a deadline for. So I told him I would be patient and allow him to do what he needs to do. I just hope he is not taking this as an opportunity to bow out. If so then well, it wasn't meant to be. I guess we will see, won't we? I think the best thing for me to do is just back off and allow him to continue pursuing me at his own pace. I feel like I'm getting a little too overzealous (as I have a tendency to do). To be continued...
I still don't have a refrigerator. I left my landlord a voicemail on Monday then again on Friday after no callback. This was the week before Christmas. He left me a voicemail telling me how he didn't appreciate me calling his house with an attitude. He also said he didn't know the refrigerator looked the way it did, but he was trying to do ME a favor!!! Do ME a favor?!?!?!?! Supplying a refrigerator for his property is doing ME a favor! Yeah, okay.
So I began my paper trail. Honestly I wanted to pack up my stuff and run from this place, since he definitely wants his key back (at least that's the way he acts). I wrote him a very professional letter detailing all issues that are currently being dealt with in the house, that need to be handled by him most expediously. I followed proper procedures, giving timelines to request all issues be handled. He finally called back to let me know he hadn't had time to look for a refrigerator so I could do it and let him know. The saga continues...
I really wasn't in much of a Holiday mood this year. I never did put up a tree. Things were just so heavy on me, I just couldn't shake it. Not like depression, just pressure. Everything is up to me pressure. I am barely maintaining, but I'm holding on in faith. Right now I am hanging in there for tax return season. That's my light at the end of the tunnel. I just want to get everything caught up and a little ahead, so that I can maintain my budget from there.
Things are going okay with me and The New Guy. We have been getting along really well, although I think he is getting scared and therefore retreating. He did tell me he has some school work that was getting behind that he is on a deadline for. So I told him I would be patient and allow him to do what he needs to do. I just hope he is not taking this as an opportunity to bow out. If so then well, it wasn't meant to be. I guess we will see, won't we? I think the best thing for me to do is just back off and allow him to continue pursuing me at his own pace. I feel like I'm getting a little too overzealous (as I have a tendency to do). To be continued...
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