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Okay…well not ALL men! But damnit, most of those that I have ever dealt with are!
Don’t believe me? Let me give you a short list:
My father – JERK
My first husband – JERK
My second husband – JERK
My baby-daddy (ie, The One) – JERK
The WonderTwins’ father – JERK
Those are the major ones at least. Pretty much all of the minor ones have been too. This entire batch of new men? JERKS!!
The New Guy strung me along for months instead of just being straight and breaking it off, when it was clear he didn’t want to be in a relationship (at least, not with me). Mind you, this revelation only became apparent when I told him about my condition! That puts him in JERK status.
The Commander hurt my feelings by calling me a fair weather friend, when I was clearly going through HELL in my own life. But when I told him about it, did he act like he cared? No. Now, it seems all he’s interested in is a romp in the sack, cause apparently that’s all I’m worth!! BUT, that can’t put him JERK status because of something equally crappy that I did….so let’s say we’re even!!
New Man who decided to be a judgmental little prick for deciding that my condition was a deal-breaker for him! Meanwhile, I decided to be the nice one and bend my deal-breaking policy of being with a smoker to give him a chance! That puts him in JERK status.
And now, to round out the group, Dante!!!! I am so disappointed and pissed off with his actions! I can’t even see straight!! JERK status!! Let me enlighten you on that one. Once again, selfish – hypocritical – judgmental ass men!!! I was willing to be your friend, regardless as to whatever else was going on. We were supposed to be cool no matter what, even if we decided not to have anything more than that. We have discussed a lot about ourselves to each other, good and bad. You kept in contact with me when you were 9hours away…on an almost daily basis! You even called me on a number of occasions while you were in
What a bunch of shit???!!! I am past the rejection and hurt that I felt this weekend. I am PISSED THE HELL OFF!!!!
Sanctimonious bastards!!
Whew! Now I feel better!
(solo-mommy puts on her best Cheshire Cat grin)
6 comments:
The Commander Salutes you for your honesty and Yes that little detail failed to mention prior to our party really dented our communication. What we had was a friendship and you did not give me a choice which proves that your male bashing is unsupported. But I love you dearly and Pray for that right someone ... And yes the Commander is trying to hit it hard and pornish.... Sticking my tongue out at cha
The New Guy needs to jump in here. Sharing up front would've been appreciated. I wish it could've been different, I too care about you deeply, hope you're doing well, and those wonderful kids too. I check on you daily in this medium, but this tirade was outta line. There is only ONE thing I had a problem with, and you know what it is. You share some of the blame dearest. I was totally open with you from day one, would've appreciated the same, but thats OK. Try to remember, you are not the only one disappointed & discouraged. Kiss the 4 for me, especially my namesakes.
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To answer my critics:
This is MY blog and MY feelings, if you don't like it....don't read it. Can't say it any other way. My tirade cannot be out of line if that's the way I feel. Would you prefer that I wear a T-Shirt or a special medical bracelet, or just go live in the leper colony now?? It's not the freakin' plague you know? But hey, thanksomuch for making me feel like it is! New Guy, if you couldn't handle it, you should've said so when I told you, NOT a couple of months later. My point still stands.
considering that decision was one with lifelong ramifications... acceptance wouldve meant, in my simple mind, prelude to nuptuals, i chose to take my time, remember me???, married quick... fell apart... but thats ok, youre right, probably wasnt meant to be NewGuy out
Okay, can Lil Mama say something. We all have some stuff and no ones stuff is better or worst than anothers, we are all in the same boat. My thought is when feelings run deep, that means just what it says. Acceptance in my Forrest Gump type of mind doesnt at all say "okay, I accept your position, Lets tie the knot". Acceptance says, "okay, this is something that we can deal with moving forward". Who gets marriage out of that, raise your hands. New Guy, your mind is moving too fast, but its okay, it happens to the best of us. If you love somebody, you tell them openly how you feel, yea or na. Not meant to be, who really ever knows that. There is a such thing as reconciliation,healing forgiveness and restoration!
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